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Grain of Salt said:


No, actually it generally is considered bigotry when you say that a marginalized group is creepy, deceitful and that you couldn't be comfortable around them. Try that with any other group and see how well it goes.



"Generally is considered bigotry" by who? Here's the definition of "bigot" according to Webster's Dictionary: "one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance."

Just because someone is creeped out by a certain group or isn't comfortable around them DOES NOT equate to treating them with hatred and intolerance. I'm betting that if PRIMEVAL were on a bus ride with a transgendered person, he wouldn't start a fistfight or ask them to get off the bus. He'd keep his opinions to himself and sit there.

Fucking thought police.

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Fucking thought police.

ITT it's becoming clear that Grain of Salt stands on a plateau of moral superiority, where only he's allowed to judge others for being judgemental or ignorant.

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Grain of Salt said:
Try that with any other group and see how well it goes.

Yeah, those fucking creepy, deceitful Nazis! (as it was inevitable)


Ralphis said:
Some serious freaks up in this bitch

Yeah... I thought this just before reading your post saying as much :\


dew said:
...hopeless virgins?

.... :'(

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Vordakk said:
Here's the definition of "bigot" according to Webster's Dictionary: "one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance."

Just because someone is creeped out by a certain group or isn't comfortable around them DOES NOT equate to treating them with hatred and intolerance.
It might equate to regarding them with such, though, depending on the situation and how you want to define hatred and/or intolerance. Whether or not that applies here, I won't say.

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I wonder how would a woman react to a she-male. Would she find him/her more attractive because she/he looks different from other males (while still having a big dick and acting marginally like a guy)? I'd love to see she-male-on-woman action (don't link).

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Vordakk said:
"Generally is considered bigotry" by who? Here's the definition of "bigot" according to Webster's Dictionary: "one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance."


My comment wasn't meant to be as confrontational as you've interpreted it. I'm not calling anything bigotry, I'm just saying that when you say that a group of people is creepy, they will usually interpret that as bigotry. If you told a gay person "I don't hate gay people, but I do think they're creepy", they would very likely think you were a homophobe, and you would probably anticipate that. Don't you agree?


DoomUK said:
ITT it's becoming clear that Grain of Salt stands on a plateau of moral superiority, where only he's allowed to judge others for being judgemental or ignorant.


Worship me and I may yet be merciful.


Phobus said:
Yeah, those fucking creepy, deceitful Nazis! (as it was inevitable)


Yes, I should really have said hatred and not bigotry.

There's also the fact that no one ever says "I don't hate Nazis, but they're creepy, deceitful and I can't be comfortable around them". Nazis are a group who are openly and (nearly) universally hated, and so the distinctions between hatred/bigotry/etc are never contentious.

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Why hate such hateful people as Nazis? Feel sorry for them instead.

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Nope, I can't imagine any circumstances in which I'd be comfortable having a relationship with a transgendered person.

Call me a bigot, transphobic, or whatever, I don't really care. Sexual attraction isn't a rational impulse, and you can't construct a rational argument for who or what I should feel attracted to.

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"Would you date someone who is transgendered?"

No and I think the problem is that those people go to happy public parties and show what they have (wwhhhuuaaaa!!!) . Also: your man (what he was before!) should be named as "he" and not as "she", wtf? I would not mob these people, I just would call them by their real nature.

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Slightly off-topic, but I watched that entire video on why men are attracted to penises. I get it, to an extent, because as straight males, we can't get enough of porno with big schlongs...Didn't get the whole shemale thing though, I was extremely surprised that it was so exceedingly common among straight males. It's always been something that I find incredibly disturbing, rather than erotic.

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Deeforce said:
No and I think the problem is that those people go to happy public parties and show what they have (wwhhhuuaaaa!!!) . Also: your man (what he was before!) should be named as "he" and not as "she", wtf? I would not mob these people, I just would call them by their real nature.


You think transgendered people should stay the fuck away from you and your "normal" friends so you can go on pretending they don't exsist?

Why is it so hard to respect other people? If a transgendered person would like to be called a he instead of a she and that would make that person alot happier - why wouldn't you do that? What excatly do you gain by denying who they truly think they are?

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Theoretically I don't care. I would date a guy if I fell in love with one. But before I find myself in a situation of that effect, I can't make an honest answer.

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Grain of Salt said:
Ogi Ogas! Is he still around? Wow!

For the uninitiated, it's worth noting that the research stage of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" has been infamous in some areas of the internet since 2009, as an incompetent, pointlessly insulting piece of work that avoids peer review and assumes its own conclusions as a starting point. To many of us, it will always be better known as "SurveyFail". I would've assumed the the inane ABWT blog posts littered with "men like X, women like Y" would've tipped off anyone, but just to be clear, his work is bunk. Hilarious, controversy-enriched bunk.



Okay then. I wasn't aware.

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I just think it's stupid that if you don't automatically love trannys then you are a bigot (apparently).
As an aside, "tranny" is just like the N-word for us. I wouldn't recommend using it. Same goes for "shemale".


Deeforce said:
Also: your man (what he was before!) should be named as "he" and not as "she", wtf? I would not mob these people, I just would call them by their real nature.
The problem with this is that we weren't men before. We were women living as men. It's respectful to call us by our preferred pronouns.

Also, has anyone thought about another possibility? What if your current girlfriend, assigned female at birth, came out as trans and said they were really a man and needed to transition to living as one?

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yukib1t said:
The problem with this is that we weren't men before. We were women living as men. It's respectful to call us by our preferred pronouns.

I know I'm risking causing some offense here, but I have to ask: what happens when someone believes themselves to be a giraffe or a rhinoceros, thanks to nature just screwing something up somewhere? Do we stop talking to them because they're no longer human and go and look at them on some safari in Kenya so they don't get insulted?

Ok, to use a less absurd comparison: was Michael Jackson a white man? Or was he a black guy who chose to have cosmetic surgery to try and look white?

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DoomUK said:
I know I'm risking causing some offense here, but I have to ask: what happens when someone believes themselves to be a giraffe or a rhinoceros, thanks to nature just screwing something up somewhere? Do we stop talking to them because they're no longer human and go and look at them on some safari in Kenya so they don't get insulted?

Ok, to use a less absurd comparison: was Michael Jackson a white man? Or was he a black guy who chose to have cosmetic surgery to try and look white?

Well, you can't jump between species. That just doesn't work. Here's a video explanation explaining it better than I can.



I'm not sure what was up with Michael Jackson.

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@yukib1t: We all must deal with what we were when born. You and chopkinsca's boyfriend too! Just think about this: (then you will like to be a man again)



Take psychotropic drugs and just make the body alternation retrogressive. Cutting the body is not healthy and not "clean" in your case. Please come to your mind :-P! Ok... I think you will not listen: please just don't tell everybody that you are a woman. Maybe you all need another word for what you are.

Other topic: do you make doom levels???

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Wouldn't being a bigot make me feel that I'm better than they are? Like I wouldn't associate myself with them? Like I hate them? Because I only said I wouldn't want to date one. Just because I think it's creepy to perform surgery on yourself that would ultimately change who you are doesn't mean you are any worse than me. If I was to share a bus with a transgendered, then so be it. If they're nice, I'll talk to them and even befriend them, but I won't date them. So if not dating someone because of certain qualities turning me off (whether it be smoking, drug use, conflicting religious views, too many tattoos / piercings, transgendered, vampirism, lycanthropy, etc) makes me a bigot, then I'm guilty as charged just like the rest of the world.

Now get your head out of your asses and accept that there's someone who has a different opinion than your righteous selves. You're the ones acting like bigots how you're treating my bloody opinions. If my opinions offend you so much, do something about it or just shut the fuck up. kthxbai :3

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yukib1t said:
As an aside, "tranny" is just like the N-word for us. I wouldn't recommend using it. Same goes for "shemale".


Is even "transsexual" considered pejorative in some contexts? In the responses to Ogi Ogas' survey that Grain of Salt posted it seems like his use of the word "transsexual" was considered inappropriate by some posters.


yukib1t said:
Also, has anyone thought about another possibility? What if your current girlfriend, assigned female at birth, came out as trans and said they were really a man and needed to transition to living as one?


I asked this in an earlier post but didn't answer it. In my case, I don't think I'd be able to remain romantically interested in my girlfriend through a sex change. I'd prefer to remain friends, though - that's my hope even if this relationship ends in a more typical way.

Also, I'm pretty sure it's okay to ignore Deeforce.

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Creaphis said:
Also, I'm pretty sure it's okay to ignore Deeforce.
LOL!

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Creaphis said:
Is even "transsexual" considered pejorative in some contexts? In the responses to Ogi Ogas' survey that Grain of Salt posted it seems like his use of the word "transsexual" was considered inappropriate by some posters.
I would think it would depend on the person. Personally, that's what I call myself. "Transgender" is sort of an umbrella term, which "transsexual" is under. But I haven't met someone who finds it offensive yet.


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Also, I'm pretty sure it's okay to ignore Deeforce.
Who?

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She says people are born with either male of female brains which ultimately determine their sex. Ok, but isn't there evidence to suggest that thinking hard enough about something cause changes in the physical structure of the brain too? In which case you could of become a woman for all intents and purposes when you wanted to become one bad enough, but you were born a man nonetheless.

I know this is just hair-splitting. But it's an interesting topic.

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Deeforce said:
We all must deal with what we were when born.

yeah, but it's about the 'dealing' part. transgendered? surgery or crossdressing or just calling themselves miz arabella. being born as you? years and years of therapy.

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yukib1t said:
Same goes for "shemale".
Err, I was specifically referring to those who decide to keep their penises, but for what I know, it might still sound insulting. Will be more careful.

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yukib1t said:
I'm not sure what was up with Michael Jackson.

Well, this article actually explains a lot, though not about the black/white thing:

http://www.cracked.com/article_1955...make-sense.html

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Deeforce said:
I think you will not listen: please just don't tell everybody that you are a woman. Maybe you all need another word for what you are.



Go to Hell and stop telling other people how to identify themselves while you're on your way.

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DoomUK said:

She says people are born with either male of female brains which ultimately determine their sex. Ok, but isn't there evidence to suggest that thinking hard enough about something cause changes in the physical structure of the brain too? In which case you could of become a woman for all intents and purposes when you wanted to become one bad enough, but you were born a man nonetheless.

I know this is just hair-splitting. But it's an interesting topic.



The way you've phrased this, it's as if "thinking hard" gives you mind-over-matter superpowers to alter the structure of objects. It is true that the brain changes as it's used - every thought that passes through your mind leaves chemical and physical traces in the brain. It is true that these changes will multiply as you use a particular skill repeatedly. However, there are evidently limits to this: the neural structures implicated by scientists as affecting/determining gender identity must be less changeable, or else transgendered individuals who try to live according to their birth sexes wouldn't be so unsuccessful.

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The way you've phrased this, it's as if "thinking hard" gives you mind-over-matter superpowers to alter the structure of objects. It is true that the brain changes as it's used - every thought that passes through your mind leaves chemical and physical traces in the brain. It is true that these changes will multiply as you use a particular skill repeatedly. However, there are evidently limits to this: the neural structures implicated by scientists as affecting/determining gender identity must be less changeable, or else transgendered individuals who try to live according to their birth sexes wouldn't be so unsuccessful.



Does this mean thinking positively will eventually lead me to be happy without having to try to be?

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phobosdeimos1 said:


Does this mean thinking positively will eventually lead me to be happy without having to try to be?

Tried this, didn't work.

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Deeforce said:
"Would you date someone who is transgendered?"

No and I think the problem is that those people go to happy public parties and show what they have (wwhhhuuaaaa!!!) . Also: your man (what he was before!) should be named as "he" and not as "she", wtf? I would not mob these people, I just would call them by their real nature.



I suggest purchasing rotten tomatoes to throw are the freaky "it" if it comes in your public space!


DoomUK said:

I know I'm risking causing some offense here, but I have to ask: what happens when someone believes themselves to be a giraffe or a rhinoceros, thanks to nature just screwing something up somewhere? Do we stop talking to them because they're no longer human and go and look at them on some safari in Kenya so they don't get insulted?

Ok, to use a less absurd comparison: was Michael Jackson a white man? Or was he a black guy who chose to have cosmetic surgery to try and look white?



This seems like a thinly veiled "slippery slope" argument, but I'll bite: gender identity is a part of the human mind, and incongruencies between gender identity and biological sex are probably as easy as an extra hormone bath by mistake in the womb. Considering the wide range of birth defects of the physical sorts present, when you consider a mismatch of gender to sex, it doesn't seem all that bizarre in contrast to things such as extra limbs, perception differences (aspergers, dyslexia) and development differences (acromegaly).
The difference between transgenderism and trans-specism is that gender and sex are both developed in the womb and can be different per individual (aka: boys and girls exist in humans) whereas the species of the child is always a constant in human birth (We only give birth to humans.) As such, there's no place for discrepancies between specie.
However, if we consider race to be different species, then there have been humans who have felt at odds with their racial identity between inter-racial parents. In that sense, I suppose, trans-specism exists. I believe racial expectations are being pushed from most of our social experiences in this day and age though, so this probably doesn't happen as much in the current age, but I may be incorrect.

Michael Jackson was Michael Jackson. If he identified as a caucasian, and fit into society as a caucasian, I don't see much issue with considering him caucasian, although I don't think that was his intent. I'm not too up on his history though--According to wikipedia he suffered from Vitiligo and Lupus, and the treatments he used to stop the illness as well as makeup used evened out his complexion and caused him to be more white as he aged.

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