Phobus
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Lose the dick and there'd still be the issue that they'd probably behave a bit like a man, which might be enough to put me off... BUT I've seen some pictures of men-turned-women and the one issue I always find is that the examples don't really stand up to much scrutiny. You look at them to begin with and you'd give them one, but then you really look and you see that the bone structure (particularly around the shoulders and face) is more like a slim man than a slim woman (no idea why, but all the images I've seen are of slim people). As somebody who simply doesn't find men attractive, that will put me off.
I could be mates with one, definitely - just like I've met some pretty cool gay guys in my time as well - but I'd not find them physically attractive. A guy like me won't get much mileage out of dating somebody platonically. I'd rather have a meaningless one night stand for a quick release than tip-toe around another person's sensibilities for months on end.
As an anecdotal aside, just last weekend I came up against an interestingcase of what I've mentioned above. In short, the girl found me attractive, I'm not particularly fussy (she wasn't ugly or repellant, but I didn't find her much in the way of an object of desire) but she would have wanted to make a boyfriend out of me. Now, I know that logistically and practically that isn't happening. Likewise it's her view that casual sex is just being used* so when she opted out of the night out that may have led to casual sex (due to overhearing my mates joking and taking it seriously) I concluded it'd be wrong for me to do anything with her. Next day I went over to apologise about my mates offending her and to clear things up and she asked me if I was going to kiss her. My response? A flat "no". I don't want her to feel used and I don't want to commit to her.
I could point to other asides that have ensured that I've been sleeping alone every night - such as my still-enduring-but-possibly-doomed love for my 6-months-previous, very-distant girlfriend that I'd give anything to be back with (I blogged about it once IIRC) - but in this instance it's safe to say the differences in attitude to sex stopped this particular instance before any of the other stuff could really come into play.
*I make a distinction there, although it's difficult to articulate properly. Casual sex for me is two people having sex as an activity together without the emotional baggage of a relationship - you'd both find it a mutually appealing thing in a friendly way perhaps. Somebody using somebody else is just Person A looking for anybody to have sex with regardless of if they like Person B or not - this'd be frequent sex but with Person B being left dissatisfied in some way (i.e. they want a relationship). As I'm more keen to please the other person than I am for busting a nut myself (journey, not destination and all that shit) I tend to approach most sex as morally justifiable, uncommited fun.
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11-22-11 20:50 
