Thank you! It really is an unpredictable journey full of surprises, and I will do my best. I have faith in her being a smart open-minded person who is yet to fully blossom.
For what it's worth, logic or causal explanation isn't necessarily always compatible with relationships and general behaviour analyses. All the best for your relationship adventures though.
What I meant when I said "I've got my hopes up" is that me and her can relate because we are both in despair, and we both have general apathy for life. The only difference is in the way that we choose to express it. But the fact remains that we have a mutual dilemma to bond on. That was what I meant. Sorry if you misunderstood.
Caffeine Freak said:
To you, (assuming what you say about her here is true) it's actually more of a positive thing that she was mistreated by some prick and now hangs out with her girlfriends for the sole purpose of getting stoned and drunk, simply because you perceive it as something that betters your chances of being with her. Cyclic self-destructive behavior like the kind you describe her engaging in isn't a good thing, and usually is indicative of something along the lines of deep despair, depression or general apathy about life, but you've turned it into something you've 'got your hopes up' over, because, well, at least she doesn't have a boyfriend, and you think maybe you can still win her over in time.
During the U-turn she claimed that she was joking around. And the way I see it, if it's possible for a person to reach a point where they eventually admit that they were joking then it's also possible for them to later on reach a point where they eventually apologize and perhaps develop genuine feelings to replace the initial fakeness. Such a possibility can not be denied. Especially considering that she's still only 20 ATM.
you've convinced yourself that she actually likes you and you have some kind of chance with her. She isn't and you don't.
Right now she's in that mentality where she tweets and instagrams memes which support the ideology that "girls are superior and all guys are utterly useless". She and her clique of female friends are arrogantly labelling themselves as "badass bitches" and bragging about rejecting any type of guy at all. Sometimes it gives the impression as if they're competing with each other to see which one of them can break the most hearts at the fastest rate. Therefore, the problem is not entirely limited to me or my own attitude, but it also involves their current mentality towards all men on the planet in general.
You have to look at the whole thing from a broad perspective.
In my eyes reading about a party that someone had last night or will be having on the next night is totally different from actually showing up at someone's doorstep and crashing the party uninvited. It's just like reading that section of a magazine where you see articles about a Hollywood celebrity being caught in a car accident. You don't interfere with the people in any way, you don't hinder their affairs, you just have awareness.
You just say that "I'm keeping tabs on this new girl's Instagram and Twitter accounts" like it's nothing at all. Do you seriously not see anything wrong with that kind of behaviour?
Besides, some of her friends have locked their Twitter accounts before. This means that they could've easily shown her how to lock her account if she really wanted total privacy.
My mother reads the blogs of total strangers on Livejournal without them knowing it, and she sees nothing wrong with it. She's just doing it to gather some new cooking recipes or fitness tips or stuff like that.
I don't consider myself "overbearing" at all. On the contrary, I am actually quite submissive around women and have a soft spot for female authority and dominion. When she and her friend were begging for me to either call or message them, I respected their wish and did so. And when they told me to stop, I respected their wish and did so. I treat them as people with feelings and opinions, regardless of whether they lie or tell the truth. But awareness is a right for everyone.
ORLY, BBY? The fact is that I already passed a screening for an internship with Fairmont and had amazing reference letters sent to them by 2 of my professors. The only reason why I declined the offer was because of the offered calendar dates conflicting with another important event and because of the location being Alberta rather than Quebec.
darknation said: there is no fucking way any airport or hotel is putting you out front as the first thing people see upon entering their country.
Good friggin night, sirs. It's almost midnight. We're like going around in circles here, so I suggest that we stop and perhaps toss this into Post Hell. It's long overdue.
Last edited by 188DarkRevived on May 26 2013 at 04:55