Family and people in general just aren't worth it

[Melfice]

Where appreciating family is about, hah, I scoff at that. I'm more worried about my situation in reality than what it might be or could have been. I don't give a shit what it isn't, I'm more concentrated on what it is.

Yeah, I have the same problem as Goaxis. About my freshman year when I was 15, I could go with my friend Matt to his house everday after school, or we'd just walk back to my house since it's not even two blocks away from the High School and she didn't care. Suddenly the next year she decided to start bitching at me if I didn't tell her where I was, or she'd bitch at me if I had someone over to our house when nothing was going on while she's gone, and told me I should have called her. Fuck if I know where the hell she is or the number to the place she's at. Its like I swear one day she just suddenly realized "OMG, he's almost free!" and decided to start making up some dumbshit rules or something at the last minute. Bah.

[zark]

Melfice said:

Where appreciating family is about, hah, I scoff at that. I'm more worried about my situation in reality than what it might be or could have been. I don't give a shit what it isn't, I'm more concentrated on what it is.

Yeah, I have the same problem as Goaxis. About my freshman year when I was 15, I could go with my friend Matt to his house everday after school, or we'd just walk back to my house since it's not even two blocks away from the High School and she didn't care. Suddenly the next year she decided to start bitching at me if I didn't tell her where I was, or she'd bitch at me if I had someone over to our house when nothing was going on while she's gone, and told me I should have called her. Fuck if I know where the hell she is or the number to the place she's at. Its like I swear one day she just suddenly realized "OMG, he's almost free!" and decided to start making up some dumbshit rules or something at the last minute. Bah.

Jesus, you can't blame her for fucking caring about you. What's wrong with wanting to know where you are? The world is a pretty unsafe place these days, be grateful she at least cares that you're alright.

[DooMBoy]

It's ok to care, but remember you can care just a little too much. This definitely applies to my mom sometimes. I won't go into details, but let's just say it's nice, to have a mother that cares, but sometimes she cares a little too much.

[Naked Snake]

zarcy's words ring VERY true. My parents care about me and I love them for it. hey, they've kept us out of trouble by making sure we don't think of things like cigarettes, weed and beer as "evil", just something for older people (though weed is illegal :-P). My mom is much more cooler than my dad when it comes to stuff. Like, shit, she didn't beat the shit out of me when she caught me high (my dad did though :-P), but she was disappointed. My mom used to do pot, as did probably a lot of parents, heh. Anyway, my parents rock...but don't get me started on my brother :-P

[Tyockell]

Ahh family sucks sometimes I dont get along with my dad, he hated my half brother made his life a living hell and I hate him for it as me and my bro are pretty close, hes also just an asshole at heart and I see myself often picking up his traits and that pisses me off also.
I love my mom shes a very kind and helpfull person she has her days but mostly brought on by dad just being cranky all the time.
He complains hes bored yet he dosent do anything to keep himself occupied if it requires doing anything hes not interested he works watches tv and sleep then gets pissed off hes bored. He dosent make any sense he should just fucking do something fun for him instead of bitching about it.
Anyway thats my lil tidbit.

[Amaster]

dsm said:

You talk as if their problems are just minor issues, that's why I'm reacting to your comment - their problems are not just minor fucking issues from what I can tell. Let 'em vent, they need it.

My issue is with those who:
a) think that they somehow have it worse than everyone else (almost never true)
b) say stupid things like "all they do is try to control me", and generally assume that the world revolves around them or that they know it all.

Edit: believe me when I say that I sympathize with some of the frustrations that have been posted. Sometimes, we do know a little more about a certain situation than our parent(s) do(es). But thats pretty uncommon. And if that is the case, they can still provide some useful insight. It also bugs me that many people dont voice their opinions to their parents. I mean come on, they're not mindreaders. Note that storming out in a hissy fit does not count as voicing your opinion.

[Jonathan]

Your parents can be your best friends, or you worst enemies. For most people they'll generally be both at different times. You have to be patient with them, remember that they're only people too and in most cases they mean well, whatever they do.

That doesn't mean you have to take any shit off them, or accept anything they try to force on you. But remember: They've probably put more time, money and effort into your upbringing than anything else in their life, and you owe them something for that, even if they don't get everything right.

It may seem like it now, but your teenage years are just a short time in your life. Hang in there for a couple of years, pretty soon you'll be off to college or into a house of of your own, and you'll be truly independent at last.

As the cliche goes, you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. You have to make the best of the one you have, and you'd probably find you'd miss them a lot if they were gone. One day they will be.

[DarkWolf]

Rellik said:

...when he finally died I thought there would be some kind of change. I thought finally me, my brother and two sisters could put everything behind us. None of us cried, not for that fucking monster, but there was no relief either. For so many years I thought that once he was dead it would finally be over, and that everything would be better. When it finally happened though there was just nothing. Not happy, not sad, not angry. There was just nothing.

Did you ever see that movie Conspiracy that came on HBO? The story about the kid hating his father relates to your situation somewhat.

My siblings are usually the problem. My sister is a real bitch.

[Dingus Khan]

Assmaster said:

It also bugs me that many people dont voice their opinions to their parents. I mean come on, they're not mindreaders. Note that storming out in a hissy fit does not count as voicing your opinion.

I agree with that a lot. I was called in to talk to a counselor once and i told her about how my parents didnt understand me at all. She asked, "well have you tried just talking to them about it?". I of course never had because i thought it wouldnt work, which in reality was just a mask for the fact that i was too much of a pansy to say something. Instead i threw hissy fits and felt like shit. Later on i finally did muster up the courage to speak to them, and I found out that they're pretty understanding people. Raising children is hard shit...so when my parents fuck up, i forgive them. We're all just dudes.

[jute]

back when i was in retard mode, i had problems with my parents, and they were divorcing, and it was all pretty rough. now that i'm out of retard mode (hopefully), i see that i have some of the coolest parents of anyone i know. they're pretty rad people. individual events still bother me sometimes, but all in all, i feel very fortunate. as you grow older, you become better able to view situations objectively and base your actions on logic, not emotion, i suppose.

[White]

I never really had parents. My parents where too consumed with doing drugs and going to bars that I never really had the opportunity to get to know them. I suppose I have become a product of them...

I'm nearly drunk right now ... So instead of making a fool out of myself I've decided to end my rant. Blah ... Blah ... Blah ...

[Use]

White said:

So instead of making a fool out of myself ...

Too late, but it looks like you've got a handle on the depression thing. I hear alcohol abuse is the just what the doctor ordered!

[doomedout]

Relikk:
"
One of my favorite sayings is: "I lamented I had no shoes till I met a man with no feet."

Sure it could be worse, but it could be better too. There's nothing wrong with venting a little, bitching about how other people have what you are for some reason denied. Not only is there nothing wrong with it, it's good for you. It's always easy to sit back and say "stop bitching! You could have it so much worse!" but there is always someone somewhere who's got it a little worse. So really is there only one person in the world we should feel badly for? If you got something you wanna talk about do it. Bitch about it all you want, just as long as you understand that it really could be worse, and that you should never judge someone else by your experiences.
"

Damned, this post is so true and good...so goood

(sniff)

Thank God I have parents who have given me the love that most people crave to have....

[Sephiroth]

the teachers in my school where all horrible asses. none of them cared about the job, i even said "if u hate this job, WTF are u doing here!" cause the bitch was being a bitch (later on this) some were just plain dumb, like our computer graphics teacher. her famous 2 quotes "where is the switch to get more ram?" "can i download more RAM?"

the teacher above was so much worse. she was an asian woman who seemed very nice. once she ran into me when i was very sick, having convulsions and such caused by a genetic disorder in my family (its really a stomach thing, and is extreamly painful. causes esauphgus to twitch and excreat massive amounts of mucus)
anyways i am on the floor asking her, in between spitting up globs of mucus, to call the doctor. she just stands there looking down with this evil smerk on her face. a gilr yells at her "for fuck sake! he's choking" i wasnt choking though. this really pissed me off and thus hacked a globb of mucus on her legs. turns out she is very racist aginst white people. others told me of things she would say to them.
2 weeks later so neo-nazis told me they where gona 'make her pay' witch ment mugging her in the parking lot. they told me cause they heard what happened and thought i might want in. i declined b ut told them to give her a punch for me. normaly i would have turned those SOB's in cause i HATE nazis. however i hated that bitch more and so i let them do it. and yes they did do it. she lasted 2 more years before getting fired. i found her home email and signed that bitch up for every free bukakke porn email i could find.

another teacher was an ex-monk, i bet he got too friendly with the choir boys or something, anyways he was wacked out of his skull. not only that but very gay, but that didnt bother me. however, his insanity did. the guy was a jerk and hated seeing couples in the hall, i bet cause he is gay. one time a kid called him a dick head the the guy just started crying in the corner.
in december i had gotten the flu and was sleeping in class cause of it, also it was first period. he then confronts me in the hall and claims i have a conspiracy aginst him. claiming i hated him for teach poetry? and was gonna beat him up in the parking lot, all cause i was sleeping. what a crazy son of a bitch. i was like "WTF i have the flu, god u ARE a dumbass." yes i said that to him

[alexz721]

Perhaps it's just me, but what does that have to do with this thread? I mean, it's a good (or bad, depends how you look at it) story and all, but this is about family, not teachers.

[Melfice]

Actually in my first post, it was for the most part about family, but I also got onto a side, going on about teachers, mostly adults in general ;) So what he says is valid hehe.

[Ninja_of_DooM]

Sounds like you had a rough time those few years at school sephiroth.

It's true thought, sometimes teachers can be right jerks and can actually get away with it no problem. Kinda sick IMO.

[Captain Red]

Ohhh, doomworld self pity thread #88329

but I don't have anything family related to add here, so I'll just take in some human misery...

[Sharessa]

I can't really say anything here because the only advice I have applies only to those as well off as me or better, and I'm beginning to see just how small that group of people is. I can say I'm glad I was raised by parents who weren't psychotic, just a couple of drug-loving hippies. Heh...actualy, they kinda let me raise myself so I can kinda bitch about that but I dont really want to. At least I didn't have my dad's mother. She once smashed an entire pile of plates over his head because he said J. Edgar Hoover was a Nazi. No THAT is fucked up.

Seriously one day I want to have children, preferrably a daughter, so I can show the world how one is SUPPOSED to raise their children, not any of this bullshit that goes around these days. Shit, I can't think of a single friend of mine who actualy loves their parents. o_O

[Zoorado]

Wow! What feud!

In my country, most people abide by their moral conduct. There's very few cases of child abuse, and everyone gets along pretty well. I for one, love my parents. They love me too.

IMO, there's little that could make me hate my parents. They're the ones who gave birth to me. I couldn't be more grateful to be able to experience the wonder of life, to feel the warmth in society, the magnificence of Nature. I owe it to them that I can post this message and convey my emotions to all of you, and I feel the need to thank them for all this.

Of course, we had our tiffs, we shout at each other, fight with each other... But ultimately, we reconcile, hug each other, and cry at our silliness. It's a common and recurring process, and it helps me realise the magic in life. I feel glad that I could still smell the aroma of flowers, and watch the sun rise and set across the horizon. You should, too.

[DarkWolf]

the teachers in my school where all horrible asses.

Most of my teachers were just retarded. I had an economics teacher that said things like: "The Chinese don't respect international copyrights. They don't respect anything because they're communists" and "If you're doing addition, it's not really mathematics." She once brought in cookies for our class and said they were homemade. They were just Chips Ahoy! or some other brand put in a bowl. Supposidly they were a family recipie.

[[name_withheld]]

My mom is cool most of the time. But if I do something to piss her off she becomes psychotic. Oh well, shit happens. But I'm not really allowed to do much of anything because whenever I want to do anything she will say that I can't because I'll end up being kidnapped by some pervert. I know it's for my own good, but God, she needs to loosen up and let me do something. Sitting around the house and doing nothing sucks!

[insertwackynamehere]

Sometimes, my family warms the chains that hold me to the table in the cellar, at night, on special ocasions. Unfortuantly, I'm usually warmed with it. My dad is very good with fire.

[Dingus Khan]

insertwackynamehere said:

Sometimes, my family warms the chains that hold me to the table in the cellar, at night, on special ocasions. Unfortuantly, I'm usually warmed with it. My dad is very good with fire.

I always keep mine warm by pissing my pants in fear.

[Melfice]

pissing my pants in fear

I bet you also enjoy that as a nice warm beverage too!

[Aliotroph?]

One of the best ways to stop parental ranting is to sit right through a pile of it and then argue with with using solid logic. Best to wait for a time when they're really obviously being stupid. And when they start shouting more just laugh at them while you calmly leave. Worked numerous times for me. Or make them face ideas they didn't want to, like how their anger is the other parent's fault or something. I pretty much never got yelled at again after I pulled that on my mom. I certainly never got called a fucking asshole anymore.