Grain of Salt

@Doomkid people are saying I'm attacking him, when that wasn't the intent.

@rdwpa I do not feel comfortable refering to someone as 'it' or 'them' so I just use him unless told otherwise. its once again not meant for disrespect, but if I was to call Grain 'her' and if grain is a 'him' I would still be in trouble.

Are your objections to 'them' related to being on one side of a long-standing grammar debate? You don't strike me as that type. In either case, 'him/her' or 'him or her' (or 's/he', where applicable) is fine. Yes, avoiding 'it' is the right idea. :) 

Fair enough =) ill do that in the future, it does seem like the most reasonable way.