Single Status Update
Like the title says, I currently reside in a rented home with another relative of mine, whom I share bills / rent / other home payments with. Unfortunately, there are also blood-related relatives living in the same area, though they do little to pull their own weight (lightly putting it).
The other two said relatives / occupants are on some form of disability [some sort of anger issue, I gather] , and currently rely on aforementioned relative (stepmother) of mine as their payee for said funds. However, this hasn't stopped the two of them from working before.
As of right now;
While I don't do it myself nor have a problem with such, they smoke pot on a daily basis, but it's at the point where a good majority of the house believes its gotten to the abusive level.
I've learned from monitoring the ongoings in the house that there's indeed been -selling- of this going on within the home as well. Something me and the aforementioned stepmother have both tried to prevent. There are people coming in as late as 12AM - 3AM knocking on the basement windows to get their supply, basically.
The time-span mentioned is ALSO when people think it's 'okay' to sneak alcohol into the house and have their own parties in the basement. Even on days where some younger siblings need to sleep for school.
These two abuse myself, the stepmother, and the younger siblings in the house on a near-daily basis, mainly in the form of verbal abuse or otherwise messing with their heads. With one such occupant, this has gotten to the violent level. THIS, however, is frequent. Also results in a lot of broken items in the house.
With that said, I can say that we have, indeed, tried to come up with several ways for them to otherwise get out on their own, however all of our efforts so far are turning up with zip.
They refuse to find work. When pressured and DO find one, they can't hold it for longer than a month or two. This is usually by their own doing.
They refuse to look into other places to live, and ignore any comments about cheaper properties being found nearby.
They hold their disability check over my stepmother's head and claims she's using it for her own needs, however this is untrue as well. Their checks are being used to help them and the house, as well as going for food and home bills.
If threatened with police being called, they tell my stepmother (their mother) that they'll plant weed in her bedroom, and tell the cops to investigate. THIS, or they claim they'll commit suicide. This, again, has happened on more than one occasion. (somehow.) Now.. They -were- on the lease for the previous year on this house, I'm not exactly sure if this accounts for anything. Some info would be GREATLY appreciated here.
Right now, I'm completely clueless on where to go from here. The stepmother's too stubborn to actually CALL the police or anyone else worth calling / informing of the situation, so I'd figured that maybe a majority / crowd might be enough to help figure out where we need to go.
EDIT: Pardon for the weird formatting. Not too used to making a text post on here.
EDIT II: I really wish more of my posts could be about general forum / Doom-related stuff. But it seems like most of the decent advice I get comes from here.
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Sounds like you need some new roommates, ones that will pay rent and handle household responsibilities. Bring in a couple friends/random people from work and start showing them around the house while your deadbeats are at home. Start acting like you're actively looking for people to bring in new people to replace them as tenants.
Also convince your mother-in-law to move somewhere else with you. Make it clear no other abusive family members can come with. If you said there are cheap properties around, I think you should consider taking with you everyone you care about and leave the undesirables behind.
Also, since your deadbeats are in a position of powerlessness due to addiction and uselessness, they will threaten you and your mother-in-law if it suits them. Their lives are unmanageable so they will conjure up any excuse or threat to fuck with you, make you feel like you are the problem, or make it seem like you are in just as much trouble as they are if the police ever come sniffing at your door.
source: I'm an addict
I wouldn't recommend going to the police since I'm not in your shoes, but I can't recommend not going to the police either.
Their whole thing about "planting drugs" as a way to backdoor-threaten your family is basically bullshit. If things ever get serious, pick a time of day when you, the kids, and the mother-in-law are not home and you know for a fact that the deadbeats are. From there you could make a phonecall to the police department and tell them exactly what they could find in your house and whom it belongs to, and basically give them permission to search the house and seize illegal materials without a search warrant.
Before you ever go to the police, I would suggest going down to the local department and ask to speak to a couple cops and get their advice about how you proceed. You don't want this whole thing to build up to an emergency and you make the 911 call out of anger or lack of planning.