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  1. Aight, so, I could use some adulting advice from people who've possibly had to deal with this stuff, so

     

    Right now, I'm pretty heavily a dependent on my family, but for various reasons that's incredibly stifling and I'm not sure if I'll ever move forward in life while I'm stuck there. However, I've struggled to find any sort of employment around here, and even if I did I'm not sure if I could manage to keep a normal job due to some mental health issues that are currently going ignored by my family. I do have two good friends that have ( individually ) outright offered to house me in the near-future, though, but between there and here there lies some significant issues.

     

    Namely, I have no idea how to handle moving out.

     

    Part of the issue is that I'd mostly be moving in on my friends' good will, although I'd also be able to help around the house and notably neither of my friends are capable of driving, something I can do. But also, my family barely knows about these friends, they both live out of state, and I have no employment lined up for me in either state, so I can't help but feel that telling my family I want to move out would just end up with the exact opposite of support, especially since they don't have the best faith in me. So chances are I'd just have to do the entirety of it on my own, and I don't even know where to start.

     

    I do "have" my own car, but that's one of my main issues: I'm not sure who technically owns it, or even if that's an issue, all I know is that it was a gift from my dad ( mostly, I might add, so that getting me and my brother to school was less of an issue ). I'd imagine insurance wouldn't be too big of an immediate issue - after all, even if I get removed from my family's plan, it's not like my friends aren't expecting to pick up the slack with my expenses - but I have no idea if just driving off one day would constitute as theft, and I'd rather not take my chances on whether or not my family would pursue that to either track me or the car down. There's also concerns about this with the rest of my possessions, but, well, computers and clothes don't come with legally-required licenses plates that the police can just report if they spot on the streets.

     

    Then there's cutting the trail if they do decide to pursue me but can't do so through my car. I honestly don't know how much this all matters, but my phone's on my dad's cellular plan and my bank account is set up so that my savings will automatically go to my mom if I end up dying. I might be just worrying way too much about this and there's no actual reason for me to cut all ties so dramatically, but I just really don't know how my family would react to me suddenly leaving, so I want to be prepared for the worst.

     

    Then I guess general moving out advice would be pretty handy, too. I suppose I'm going from dependent to dependent ( albeit with far more room to stretch my wings and potentially become independent, or at least capable of adding to the collective income ) so it's not like I need to learn to take care of an apartment or house on my own, but I've also never not lived with my family before, so just ideas on how to adapt to a new house and new state would be nice.

    1. Doomkid

      Doomkid

      Living on your own isn't as scary as it seems at first.

       

      There's a few things to unpack here. Firstly, being able to drive your friends around might be a nice segue into living with them, but keep in mind that the only real/sustainable solution is to find your own income. The unfortunate reality of job hunting is that the hunt in itself should be treated as a full-time job. If you've got spare time and enough energy to browse around online, spend that time job hunting. Even part-time work will give you some money and when you have some money, friends are much more likely to happily house you for an indefinite amount of time.

       

      Now of course, you mentioned some things you're unsure about for the time being, a big one of which was your family's potential reaction to your proposal to move out. If you are of an adult age they should be totally behind your goal here but unfortunately that's not always the case. Hoping for a good reaction but preparing for the worst reaction seems very wise given how you've framed things.

       

      One thing you may need to do is find out whose name the car is registered in. It is possible that you have full ownership of the vehicle and it is simply insured on your father's plan. Since it was presented to you as a gift, it is technically your property, but if it's registered in your father's name, you'll have to get that moved over to your own name. If he's cool with you taking it it's not really a big deal, but if he tries the indian-giver routine, it may make things quite a bit harder. If he has no intention of making a stink over it, then your car situation aught to be just fine until you're settled in and ready to consider insuring it in your own name. Given you haven't ruled out the possibility of them trying to report the car as stolen if you drive off in it, I'd say it's worth your time to find out who the real owner is according to the documentation.

       

      Your other possessions are a different story. As you said, these are not things that have to be registered. They were presented to you as gifts, therefore you are unquestionably the owner of these items. Don't hesitate to take all of your belongings and clothing with you. If it's a 'shared' belonging that is owned by the family as opposed to just you, that's a different story.

       

      You'll most certainly want to be on your own phone plan if you are not living near the person whose name the plan is in. There are a litany of reasons but I'll just boil it down to the simplest form and say that many potential headaches will be avoided. Of course, this required money, but unless your father really, truly wants to fuck you over, the phone shouldn't be much of an issue for a few months time while you seek employment. If the plan is in his name, he does reserve the right to cancel it at any time, so bare that in mind. If the phone itself is not attached to the plan's contract in any way, then the device itself can be safely considered your own property.

       

      Your savings account seems to only be tangentially linked to your mother's, so if you're fine with her getting your money if in some bizarre twist of fate you do end up dying, you should be fine otherwise. Such a link, as I understand it, would not allow her to withdraw or otherwise do anything related to your bank account without your knowledge. I would recommend that any cards or online banking you have setup be configured so that you and only you know the various associated passwords and pins. If that is the case, you've nothing to worry about.

       

      (As a brief side note, I hope these specific concerns are just you being prepared for the absolute worst reaction on your family's part - When I moved out I didn't even have to consider who was the legal owner of my car or any bank account ties to my family, as they're super sweet people and allowed me to detach everything slowly and painlessly. We basically moved things over when it was convenient. It was over a year before everything of mine was "just mine" in terms of the car and bank account, and even now my dad still has my car insured on his plan. I really do hope that none of this will be an issue, it certainly shouldn't be, in theory.)

       

      All the stuff above sounds pretty adulty and heavy and scary, but it's really all simple stuff. The worst thing about it all is the time consumed, so assuming your family is even the slightest bit supportive, it should be very painless, even if a bit nerve-racking, which is understandable of course.

       

      Now for the not-so-scary aspect: Sharehousing. Living with friends is quite different than living with family, generally speaking. Unless you come from an extremely strict household, be ready to do all chores and other boring housekeeping-type stuff more promptly than ever before. Dishes washed right after they're used, sharing of communal duties such as vacuuming, cleaning the kitchen and bathroom, etc etc. I always thought of myself as a reasonably clean person, but it was only after not having my mother around that I realized how much effort goes into keeping your home clean. Again, this is nothing to be afraid of by any means, it's just time consuming and boring at the absolute worst of times. If your friends see you keeping things tidy (and do their bit, as I assume they already are) then you should be fine for the interim between first arriving at their place and finding your own source of income.

       

      One thing that I cannot stress enough: Do not make their lives more difficult by virtue of your presence. Following the above advice is a sure way to make your friends totally content with having you around. As it's their home, make sure to respect how they like to keep the place and try not to get in the way. If you tick those boxes, you'll be A-OK in the sharehousing department.

       

      It seems like a lot to take in, but I urge you to approach this with an open mind and not be encumbered by fear. As soon as you have a little momentum going (see: as soon as you're living on your own/with one of your friends) the rest will fall into place naturally and it will be much easier than you anticipated keeping things in order. I'll re-emphasize here just how important the financial aspect of all this is: Once you have your own source of income, you've got the groundwork for building your own independent life in-place. The rest is just important things to remember until you get to that stage/after you've landed work.

       

      I hope the best for you and I hope some of this advice proves helpful for you in your journey. Please believe me when I say it is truly not as hard as it looks at a glance. Your biggest enemy is your own fears (take it from someone who's been there!) so once you know what you need to know, approach the situation with confidence - It will certainly help to make your journey easier on yourself. Everyone is playing this shit by ear, don't fool yourself into thinking that everyone else has it all sorted and you're somehow "behind". Dropping that misconception was one of the best things I ever did for myself!

  2. so i just discovered the source of the screaming song meme thing

     

    ... i am so confused

  3. bkub has saved anime

    1. BigDickBzzrak

      BigDickBzzrak

      Bkub was a mistake then

  4. my glasses broke and i won't be able to replace them for a couple days rip

    1. MidnightMage

      MidnightMage

      That is unfortunate.

  5. This avatar of your's is extremely distressing.

    1. riderr3

      riderr3

      Better than anime.

  6. fucking monikammmmmmmmm

    1. Remilia Scarlet
    2. GarrettChan

      GarrettChan

      Your new avatar seems a little bit off to your personality (I mean by impression) to me for some reason.

    3. Remilia Scarlet

      Remilia Scarlet

      haha in a way, I suppose it is.  I don't control peoples' realities so that I can have someone behind the fourth wall just to myself.  Not usually, anyway.

       

      In all seriousness, I actually love anime, I just don't mention it often these days.  I also happen to really like DDLC.

  7. I've made a discovery that makes me question how many bogeyman chasers there are whose only proof of their bogeyman existing are blatantly obvious bots with the only purpose of trolling those types of people.

     

    Said discovery is the blog of someone who makes those bots.

  8. I pity those who've never had pho before.

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    2. Memfis

      Memfis

      I agree with bzzrak.

    3. Albertoni

      Albertoni

      Pho is a soup with noodles and meat, sometimes with vegetables. Add Vietnamese spices until delicious. Serve warm.

    4. Arctangent

      Arctangent

      Best part is that it's usually served cool enough to eat, but hot enough to still steep the ingredients, and you're also usually given a plate of extra veggies to add in like mint and jalepenos. Throw all of this together and unless you scarf it down, the flavor actually slowly changes over the course of a bowl.

  9. wait this is a castlevania character

     

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    this is a castlevania character

     

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    THIS IS A CASTLEVANIA CHARACTER

     

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    what

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    2. Jaxxoon R

      Jaxxoon R

      What's funny is how this character gets a complete redesign for every game they appear in... even though it's basically a port of the same game each time.

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    3. esselfortium

      esselfortium

      This is a castle

      This is a van

      Ia! Ia! Cthulhu fhtagn

    4. DeathevokatioN

      DeathevokatioN

      Haha, she looks awesome.. one of the characters from Brave Earth also looks like of her.. but then again it is inspired by Castlevania afterall. 

       

       

  10. Y'know, on the anime girl avatars, I wonder what the percentage of girls is with the peeps who have 'em. It feels like on most internet forums, that's always a smaller number, but on here it definitely feels like a not-insignificant amount of the guys actually have animephobia or whatever, while more of the rest just pick something else.

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    2. esselfortium

      esselfortium

      It's great.

       

      Also, calling people fags in 2017 is uhhhhhh

    3. Arctangent

      Arctangent

      Especially when there are gay people in this status thread.

       

      Yeesh.

    4. Nine Inch Heels

      Nine Inch Heels

      Here, @bzzrak... Give this a listen and join us in our righteous quest for cuteness and tolerance. <3

       

       

  11. i feel like i've doomed myself and my sleep schedule by poking fun at my sleep troubles when i finally decided to write my profile

     

    help

  12. argh why does kiev have to be awake at butt o' clock

     

    oh well pro dota > sleep anyway

    1. printz

      printz

      Time zones probably. What are you playing with Ukrainians? DOTA?

    2. Arctangent

      Arctangent

      Nah, I was watching the Kiev Major, one of the four yearly tournament Valve runs for DOTA 2.

       

      And yeah, I know it's time zones but can't they just move the entire continent to make it more reasonable? :TTT

  13. I've been wanting to just muck around with Doom's source code for a while now, but it's been a struggle. Namely, I can't really find a source code that a. doesn't add a bunch of additional features past Boom extensions, b. is still modern enough that some framework doesn't need to manually replaced ( although I'm the least certain about this ), and c. has set up instructions that exist and aren't several magnitudes out of date.

     

    Am I just missing an obvious choice, or am I just being too picky for the amount of commitment I'm willing to go through to get started?

    1. Linguica

      Linguica

      Chocolate Doom is still struggling with making it relatively straightforward to download and compile, but it's not THAT bad.

    2. Arctangent

      Arctangent

      That's the one I've attempted the most, but three different instruction sets later and the closest I've gotten is compiling executables that only respond to being ran when DLLs are missing.

       

      Not because I didn't move those DLLs into the folder, mind. It's just that when chocolate-doom.exe didn't pop up those error messages, it ... I'm not sure what. A window never pops up. I don't even know if it's instantaneously closing or what, because the only sign that my computer even tries to run it is my cursor going into that "loading" animation for a short time.

  14. Is your new avatar that girl from Rewrite? Looks a bit like her, but I can't say for sure.

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    2. Arctangent

      Arctangent

      Not really. I tried watching the anime of it a while back, though, and I'm pretty familiar with a bunch of KEY characters anyway, even if the only visual novel of their's I've actually gone through is a couple CLANNAD routes and, if you can even count it, part of the intro to Little Busters!.

    3. esselfortium

      esselfortium

      Ah, that's too bad. The anime adaptation is awful, but the VN is an absolute masterpiece. It's also quite un-Key-like for a Key release.

    4. Arctangent

      Arctangent

      I'll have to keep that in mind, then!

  15. Does anyone know about any decently powerful video editing software for Windows with a UI that isn't utter ass? I find Adobe Premiere dreadful to use, and while Final Cut actually looks pretty straight-forward it's also for Mac.

     

    Anyone have any ideas, or am I just stuck with struggling through Premiere?

    1. GooberMan
    2. Arctangent

      Arctangent

      The fact that they're exhibiting it with its own damn custom control panel makes me want to vomit blood more than Premiere has.

    3. Dragonfly

      Dragonfly

      I no longer have access to it myself, but I found Sony Vegas (which is no longer owned by Sony) to be a very functional piece of software!

      If you come across a FREE solution, I'd be interested. :)

  16. Really worth taking a glance at your notification settings. Chances are, you've ended up following every single thread you've ever posted to, so turning off that option and clearing up your follow list will go a long way towards making sure you won't get flooded with notifications.

     

    With that stuff cleaned out, though, they seem pretty dang handy.

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