Single Status Update
My girlfriend and I had a long phone conversation just a few minutes ago, and we both came to realize that we had the same viewpoint on our relationship: It needs to end, but not anytime soon. We know that it's not going to become anything permanent and has no real potential beyond what it already is. At the same time, though, there's no pressing need or want to break up preemptively.
From her perspective, there's no real future potential mainly because of a difference in personal interests. I'm interested in games, techy hobbies, living a wealthy lifestyle, and traditional pastimes like fancy dinner, movies, and alcohol here and there. She's interested in the outdoors, reading, celtic music, and environmentalism. The small amount of overlap in our interests includes a few TV shows and the occasional movie. That's about it.
From my perspective, there's no real future potential because of the reasons mentioned above and because of the fact that I know I can't live with her. The relationship is great when we see each other 2 to 3 times a week, spending the night here and there. Anything much more or less than that has proven to be a strain on the relationship. Another factor is that she's riddled with family problems and is struggling (financially) to make it through university. I don't really want her to be a burden on me financially, as she has no way to pay her fair share if she were to live with me. Her future prospects for earning money are pretty mediocre as well, as she's majoring in biology and she has said loud and clear that money isn't what she cares about in life. I can understand that but I also can't escape the fact that I would want a life partner to help free me up financially and work toward some more exciting life goals such as traveling, homebuilding and maybe getting involved in playing sports or games with other people.
As it stands today, neither of us want to ever have kids, but she wouldn't mind the idea of getting married some day. I'm dead set against marriage because of its religious stigma. This kind of explains why we're both OK with just riding out our relationship until it glides to some kind of stop. Neither of us feel any pressing need to have a relationship that's going to "lead to something." Essentially we're getting our jollies from food, sex, small talk, and some mindless TV entertainment. I also get along with her family really well, despite the fact that they're the major cause of her stress and worries.
Is our arrangement bizarre or is it more common than I think?