The dreaded "S" word!

DoomUK said:

...Which is unusual. If you want to treat "unusual" and "wrong" as synonyms, that's your problem :p


Wrong according to what standards? Who said it's a problem?

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DooM_RO said:

Are you saying that being hopelessly in love with a girl for about four years and thinking about her so much that it affects your life is NOT uncommon?I imagined most people got over their first love in about 6 months max. Maybe I'm not such a loser after all.


It's happened to me twice before; you come across girls you would really like to date but can't because of various reasons. I was hung up on this girl that I had been friends with for years. I liked her from the beginning, but she was never available to me because she was always in a relationship. Moreover, by the time she was single, I would happen to be in a relationship myself. But eventually, after 5 or 6 years we hooked up, and had sex. The down side was, by this time I realized she was not a particularly good catch, besides her physical appearance, and immediate impressions I had gotten from her (She would like to drink way too much, and get annoyingly sloppy; not really girlfriend material). Nevertheless, despite her flaws (I'm not perfect myself), I was still extremely attracted to her because I had psychologically worked myself up over her for half a decade. It's better to keep these kind of girls as friends-with-benefits, until they fade into obscurity.

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GoatLord said:

Wrong according to what standards? Who said it's a problem?

Putting inverted commas around "unusual" (not in the way that I'm using them here) implied that you disputed the word's appropriateness. Whether we agree on vows of lifelong abstinence being unusual or not, I was simply tying to say in my follow-up post that something being unusual doesn't mean it's wrong, yet the syntax was horribly misunderstood.

Now please excuse me, as I must nurse my brain aneurysm.

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GoatLord said:

Krispy, thanks for pointing out that I'm the forum weirdo. I don't feel awkward at all. Actually, this entire thread has been awkward. I'm a mess.


Maybe you should embrace it, and from now on ONLY make posts like this. You'll have your fame.

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DoomUK said:

Occasionally, I still think about this girl I fell for in school, 15 years later. Even if I wanted to be stalker-y and look her up on Facebook, I doubt if it would be successful since she's probably abandoned her maiden name by now. I'm left with only memories of those feelings.

So no, not really.


Oh god, this so much. Much to my annoyance I keep thinking of someone from way back when I was...cue the dismay..12. A girl that at the start of the year I didn't even know existed in my class randomly asked me out one day while I was dicking around on the class computer (best school program ever, something called Primesolve I think? You could shoot lasers at people powering the laser via a bicycle using mirrors). It both weirded me out and terrified me, because of my age pretty much, I pretended I didn't hear a thing. To be fair she was meek and quiet and I was absorbed building a death machine of doom. No not THAT Doom :p That entire year was complicated as hell after that, because this girl liked me and I didn't know wtf to do and I grew to return the interest to my dismay. Oh heart why you so annoying?

Nothing ever happened, I even regrettably tried being cruel at one point to shake her off and "fix things" and I spent my teenage years stuck in a damn male-only school with only various school bus girls to take an interest in. After school was done with, I suddenly remembered that girl and ever since I'll randomly think of her and wonder what shes like now, who she grew up to be, etc etc. Even goddamn dreams are sometimes invaded. Its confusing as hell because I will be 26 in a week. Thats what, 14 years ago? How the hell can someone be so implanted in my brain from a time I was downright terrified of the thought of girlfriends?

Im going to be mulling over this all night now, thanks :p

Doomworld: The weirdest place for serious moments

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Yeah, these situations are to be expected, and I think it's totally normal (if not necessarily healthy) that they last for years and years. It sucks, but it's life. Personally, I fell for a stunning lesbian roommate once. I used to kick myself for not asking her out (there were indications she might be interested). A few years ago I even met up with her, and she'd grown even more alluring. I was single, and so was she, so I asked her out. She said yes. I bailed like an asshole, apologized, but never asked again. Haven't really spoken to her since; not like that.

Anyway, there are reasons why I don't want to date her, and surprisingly it's not primarily out of cowardice. But for years the regret of lost time ate away at me. Segue:

DooM_RO said:

Well...maybe it ISN'T such a big deal after all. I just hope I won't regret all this wasted time hating myself for it during my prime years.


At first, you will. Especially if you find yourself in a relationship with a sexually healthy person. You'll look at their past experiences and current mature attitude towards relationships and sex and sigh that you have so much work ahead of you and so few of those memories behind you.

Over the years those feelings vanish into insignificance, though. Once your attitude sufficiently matures. :)

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GoatLord said:

Quasar seems to find this depressing. Why, I ask?

I think you misinterpret the reason why. Go back and read my post in that older thread and you should understand more.

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darknation said:

you are all complete failures and I am actually embarrassed to be posting in the same forum as you.

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Ragnor said:

this girl liked me and I didn't know wtf to do


I'm waiting in fear of this moment. I'll know when it comes though, because it will be preceded by a big sign saying LEVEL TWO

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kmxexii said:

Oh God, this is it

the saddest thread

This has officially become a very close second in that regard.

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Snakes said:

This has officially become a very close second in that regard.

Yeah, unfortunately the population who have something worth contributing here is quite a minority.

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I don't know what you guys are talking about. This is all just different views. No one is passing on edicts for all of society. Just relating personal stories, which invariably, are quite different.

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DoomUK said:

Occasionally, I still think about this girl I fell for in school, 15 years later.

I still think about a girl from my highschool from almost 10 years ago. However, I kinda moved on... In the present I'm mainly concentrating on a new girl who I met at college last year. I'm keeping tabs on this new girl's Instagram and Twitter accounts. The good thing is that those things reveal that she lied about having a boyfriend. The truth is that she's just not ready for a relationship and she seems to have gotten her heart broken by somebody else who was being a real prick. So all she ever does is get drunk with her other female friends and smoke weed. And that's the real truth. So yeah...
I've got my hopes up.
Either way, like I said before, I might have a wonderful chance of calling out an escort later this summer to finally get some "experience of the action" as I turn 29. Therefore, when the other girl who I'm concentrating on comes around, I might at least be able to say that I "gained experience while you were not ready for me".
Hopefully things will work out.

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188DarkRevived said:

I still think about a girl from my highschool from almost 10 years ago. However, I kinda moved on... In the present I'm mainly concentrating on a new girl who I met at college last year. I'm keeping tabs on this new girl's Instagram and Twitter accounts. The good thing is that those things reveal that she lied about having a boyfriend.

So you've 'kinda' moved on from a girl you went to high school with, and are now e-stalking a girl you met a year ago. That's healthy.


I might have a wonderful chance of calling out an escort later this summer to finally get some "experience of the action" as I turn 29. Therefore, when the other girl who I'm concentrating on comes around, I might at least be able to say that I "gained experience while you were not ready for me".
Hopefully things will work out.

So you're planning on shacking up with a prostitute so you can brag about it to the girl you've been e-stalking. That's healthy.

The truth is that she's just not ready for a relationship

In this case, for her I'd say, that's healthy.

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188DarkRevived said:

I might have a wonderful chance of calling out an escort later this summer to finally get some "experience of the action" as I turn 29. Therefore, when the other girl who I'm concentrating on comes around, I might at least be able to say that I "gained experience while you were not ready for me".
Hopefully things will work out.

holy fuck what is WRONG with you?

this is why you can't get laid. not because girly wasn't ready for a relationship, but because you are a cretinous, creepshow freak.

edit: holy fucking shit, I'm actually stunned by the sheer level of stupidity on display here, and indeed endemic throughout this entire thread. I do not understand how your brains work, I'd hate to meet any of you proto-rapists.

You are the reason that women carry chemical mace.

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@ 188DarkRevived: Was that satire? I don't want to be too judgemental, 'cause maybe you just opened up for real, but this sounds incredibly unhealthy for you, and somewhat worrisome for her.

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188DarkRevived said:

I still think about a girl from my highschool from almost 10 years ago. However, I kinda moved on... In the present I'm mainly concentrating on a new girl who I met at college last year. I'm keeping tabs on this new girl's Instagram and Twitter accounts. The good thing is that those things reveal that she lied about having a boyfriend. The truth is that she's just not ready for a relationship and she seems to have gotten her heart broken by somebody else who was being a real prick. So all she ever does is get drunk with her other female friends and smoke weed. And that's the real truth. So yeah...
I've got my hopes up.
Either way, like I said before, I might have a wonderful chance of calling out an escort later this summer to finally get some "experience of the action" as I turn 29. Therefore, when the other girl who I'm concentrating on comes around, I might at least be able to say that I "gained experience while you were not ready for me".
Hopefully things will work out.

You are just plain nuts.

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You crazy niggaz make my "Way of Maes" sound like the work of a Super Alpha Male.

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Quasar said:

OK *now* this thread is just amusing :P

Seconded. I wonder how much of this threads content belongs in the FanFic forum? ;-)

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Sex tip of the day: don't try to use the berzerker pack in bed...

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hex11 said:

Sex tip of the day: don't try to use the berzerker pack in bed...


Too late ;-)

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schwerpunk said:

@ 188DarkRevived: Was that satire? I don't want to be too judgemental, 'cause maybe you just opened up for real, but this sounds incredibly unhealthy for you, and somewhat worrisome for her.


I was wondering if he was joking too. Especially with the logic behind getting a hooker.

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I now feel a LOT better about being a celibate-in-training lifelong virgin in a relationship. Because I'm not out there e-stalking, lamenting over chicks from high school or 'tute scouting. No offense. But it's a bit disturbing. To each his own.

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This thread should be accompanied with that Super Mario power-loss thunk thunk sound from rapidly dropping testosterone levels.

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hex11 said:

Sex tip of the day: don't try to use the berzerker pack in bed...


I wonder how Brutal Sex is like.

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