I was ostracized from a gaming group I had got on really well with for several years because of the following reasons:
- The host's wife thought I'd had a crush on her in high school and was trying to creep on her (I didn't, and I wasn't - we interacted in high school once and I've never had any interest in her).
- The group members thought I was trying to dominate the game because I was playing a cleric who wouldn't play along with every amoral or immoral decision the party made, and because I would talk to the dm about character ideas outside of the session, both of which are standard things for any regular rpg player.
- The hosts thought it was rude that I hung around after the sessions were over, despite the fact that everyone else in the group ALSO hung out after the sessions were over. This probably related to the first point about the crush delusion, because I was the only male member of the group who was neither married nor with girlfriend.
The group decided the best way to handle this was to just not invite me to the games anymore, and they told everyone else behind my back what the plan was. One of them at least had enough spine to tell me, and gave me an edited version of events. Later they told my close friends in the group what was up, and they told me the uncensored version because it baffled them as much as it did me. Recently found out that everyone now realizes it was the asshole wife who caused all this and basically ruined our group by projecting her insecurities onto me.
Even talking about the incident illicits visible anger in me. And ever since I've found it difficult to be part of any group because I feel a need to be hypervigilant all the time, and any lack of response from members of the group in question makes me paranoid that I've done something wrong.